In some Buddhist monasteries monks spend up to a month creating elaborate paintings of sand. In the west, these beautiful creations would be displayed in galleries or hung in entry ways to be loved and admired for years to come. In the East, the Monks destroy their creations upon completion, washing the sand away in …
Dale Carnegie advises in his book How To Win Friends And Influence People to never criticize, condemn or complain. This morning I had breakfast with a great friend who owns an assisted living center. He said it used to be that when he’d meet with his employees, the focus would be on what they’d done …
The other day, I wrote a bit about how each of us has our own map or model of the world. Worldview and philosophy are 2 other names describing this same phenomenon. In NLP they say ‘the map is not the territory’, to help make this distinction. The map is a representation of reality, it’s …
I have friend who always used to tell me his favorite movie was Shawshank Redemption. He would always quote this line from the movie where one of the characters was talking about his dream of getting out of prison and moving to Mexico to live on the beach. The one guy says to the other… …
You see a bear in the woods. Your heart races, your blood pumps, your nervous system gets jacked with super human strength as you flee from danger. You then discover, it wasn’t a real bear. It was an actor in a bear suit. The lesson? The mind tends to respond not to reality, but rather, …
To me, tolerance is when you can say, “I may disagree with you, but I love you anyway.” And a step further, “There’s a great chance I could be wrong.” It the opposite of intolerance. It’s the way a higher level consciousness responds to a lower level consciousness. Do you respond with hatred, revenge or ill …
“I would love to get started but, I don’t have the money.” ‘I would love to buy but _______________.’ Sometimes people need a bit of help getting over the hurdle of filling out the form. Here are 2 tools you can use to help people make the decisions they need to make to move forward …
I had a friend I called The X Man who gave me some great advice. He said some people in home business like to recruit & drain. This is where you sign someone up and then put them in a never ending sales process designed to drain them of every spare dollar they have. I …
John Maxwell said, “Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.” Per this definition, Gandhi was a leader and so was Hitler. Seems wrong to put those 2 men in the same bucket, doesn’t it? Perhaps, we need 2 more words. Principle centered. Leadership where the ends do not justify the means. Leadership based not alone …
The other day I was talking to the friend who introduced me to the book The Magic by Rhonda Byrne. The Magic, as you probably know, is a book about transforming your life through the power of gratitude. In any case, my friend was telling me about a problem with a tenant he was having. …